People get deeply uncomfortable when you say you have not forgiven your abuser and do not plan to. Not because you are wrong, but because it forces them to confront how badly abuse has been minimised in our culture. The second you say, “I don’t forgive her,” people start scrambling to tidy it up for themselves. Suddenly they need to explain healing to you. They need to tell you that you are carrying anger, carrying hate, carrying pain. They need to believe forgiveness is the

We talk a lot about romantic breakups. We talk about leaving toxic family members. But there's one type of ending that nobody really prepares you for, one that doesn't get nearly enough attention: friendship breakups. Today, I ended a friendship with someone I considered my best friend. And honestly? It might be one of the hardest things I've done in a long time. Here's what I've learnt after 11 years of healing from narcissistic abuse, the patterns don't just disappear when

Imagine arriving at an Emergency Room with a life-threatening, bleeding wound, only to have the doctor lean in and say, "But have you considered that the person who did this to you was probably just very stressed and had a difficult upbringing themselves?" In that moment, the physician is not being nuanced or balanced; they are being dangerously negligent by prioritising the hypothetical motives of an attacker over the immediate survival of the patient. This is exactly what h

Today marks 11 years since I went no contact with my narcissistic mother. Eleven years since I made the hardest, bravest, most life-changing decision of my life. Eleven years since I chose myself. I call it my Independence Day . Not in sadness or regret, but in celebration; a recognition of my strength, my healing and how far I've come. November 21, 2014. I can still remember the weight in my chest, the fear, the guilt, the voice in my head screaming that I was making a terr

Today is World Mental Health Day , October 10th, a day dedicated to raising awareness, challenging stigma and reminding us all that...

I've heard it countless times in the past few years: " Going no contact is just a trend, " or “ Everyone thinks their mother is a...

When I first started sharing my story about surviving narcissistic maternal abuse, I thought the hardest part was behind me. I'd already...

Today, on World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day, we honour the resilience of survivors and confront the insidious reality of a form of...

Today, my baby brother Jayden turns 17. It’s a milestone that carries so much weight—not just for him, but for me too. Seventeen years...

Today marks Mother's Day in the UK. For many, today is a celebration of warmth, gratitude, and homemade cards. But for those of us raised...

There’s a special kind of magic in reconnecting with someone who knew you before the world told you who to be. Yesterday, I met my...

I want to share something close to my heart—a reflection on healing, understanding, and the delicate dance between the two. To those...

I want to share a story about love, loss, and the quiet heroes who shape us—even in the briefest moments. This week marks 32 years since...

Today, I want to dive deep into a topic that's often overlooked but can have a profound impact on our lives- childhood emotional neglect....

Let's talk about something that I know many of you can relate to – being the 'black sheep' of the family. You know, that person who...

I've been sitting on this post for a while, hesitant to share. However, this time of year always hits differently. The twinkling lights,...

Today, I want to share something more personal with you. It's a story about a little girl who found herself on the child protection...

When we hear the term "narcissist," many of us immediately picture someone who constantly seeks attention, always wanting to be in the...

Navigating the holiday season with a narcissistic mother can be a challenging experience, filled with complex emotions and strained...